that guy only had one ear

So what I was referring to in that last post, a sore 4 days ago (oops) were the traditional stereotyped gender roles that pervade our society. re-reading I feel that I wasn't clear about that.
Some of my friends and I have been playing this sort of "game" since we were sophomores in college, when we get bored we look around and try to figure out the "us"s and "them"s of the people around us. Generally speaking, the Us and Them game is about dominance and submissiveness; about who does the taking care of and who likes to be cared for. Recently we've found not only that most of the people around us are "thuses".. a combination of them and us (often Us's turn into Them's when they date someone different, or vice versa) but also that we ourselves are transcending our own categories.
I know, I know... I don't need a lesson in this whole trend of paranoia and un-PCness of labelling and putting people in boxes. Lord knows I have enough friends who freak out if you even mention their names with the words "gay" or "straight" and especially if you call them lesbians.. I get "Don't label me!" all the time.
The point is, they're just words. In the end, you are what you are, and there will never be words enough in the world to adequately account for existance - mine or yours. A label is just for organizing in the brain, or the little black book, or the christmas card list (c'mon, you can't always send the dirty santa claus card to your mom.)
If you know who you are, and if you are happy with yourself, you shouldn't worry about other people's labels, accurate or not.


Changing the subject, Is anyone ever good at saying good-bye? Is it ever easy for any feeling person to say good-bye to another person whom they care about?
I'm graduating from college, and I'm saying good-byes in many different ways to many different people. I'll say good-bye to my friends who are going on vacation, but will soon be moving to the same city as me. I'll say good-bye to my friends who are moving across the country to pursue amazing opportunities. I'll say good-bye to friends who will be coming back next year, and who may in fact come visit me later. And I'll say good-bye to people I may never see again.
I don't know how to do that. I hate saying good-bye, because I always have trouble trusting that I won't be forgotten. Most people aren't good at keeping in touch, and I'm not so hot at it myself.
When I was little I used to hate going to bed, and I would wake up really early all the time because it upset me to think that the world was still going on and I was missing parts of it. That's what saying good-bye means for me - I hate thinking of all the time with my friends I might miss while they are away. Maybe I'll get better at writing letters; maybe i'll get a cell phone plan that lets me talk limitlessly to certain folks, and maybe i'll become that person who writes random emails all the time, just to remind you that i miss you. watch out for that last one; i might already be that person.
Either way, it is hard to deal with knowing that tomorrow, sunday, or next week my comfortable community of peers and friends, or amazing women will suddenly go from within the red brick wall to sprawled across the country. I'll have friends in Washington State, in New Mexico, in California, in Chicago, in Florida, Texas, New York State, Virginia, and with me in DC. But really i just want them here with me, just a couple of doors down, or in the next hall over.

also, here's a great t/s video for you...